Sunday, October 3, 2010

Thoughts On Rutgers Student Tyler Clementi

So listen, I've always has the reputation of a heartless lunatic that will take cheap shots at everything from peoples physical appearance, the elderly, children,  natural disasters, teen pregnancy, etc, I just don't give a fuck, but if you REALLY know me you know I'm not SO bad, and in general I'm not as heartless as I may come off.  This being said, alot is to be said about the Rutgers student Tyler Clementi and the controversy (or lack thereof) with his case.  How come there is no other side to this story? Because Ravi (his roommate that taped him) called him a fag on twitter? Okay, that, I don't like or appreciate. Even though there are ignorant people out there who have tagged me as a racist at times (one in particular who i could write a fucking novel on) but I do not call gay people fags, black people niggers, so on, so forth.  I call my friends fags and inanimate objects various racial slurs, but not people, so in this instance, this dude Ravi is a piece of shit, cause that shit is fucking hurtful.  But jailable? Hardly.  You can't blame what he did on this kid's suicide.  Suicide, in general is for weak people that can't just grow up and handle their problems.  Imagine you're a woman and you want nothing but to have a baby and you get raped one day and he fucks you up so bad that you can't have a kid.  Or you have a six figure job a family and a house and you inexplicably get laid off.  Imagine a drunk driver hit your young son or daughter.  Imagine your father went to another country to fight in a war and never came back.  People go through shit like this EVERY FUCKING DAY.  Gut wrenching shit they don't deserve, and suck it the fuck up and learn to live day by day, and more often than not become stronger as a result of the tragedy they've had to endure.  Getting taped having sex?  Seriously, I wish someone could snap this kid out of the dead so he could face his family that he's now broken their hearts, and face other people who live with tragedies of a far more heinous nature, and explain why HIM BEING TAPED HAVING SEX IS WORSE THAN AN INNOCENT WOMAN BEING RAPED OR A 12 YEAR OLD BOY LOSING HIS FATHER IN IRAQ.  

I could see maybe if he was straight, and got really blasted drunk and someone taped him with a camera phone at a bar making out with a dude how that could be fucking embarassing as shit. Listen, I understand I'm a LOT more open and free with my body and myself, as well as my short comings than most.  Shit, I'd say out of the 424 friends on my facebook list, at LEAST 150 have seen at least my balls ass or penis.  It's just the way I am, and that's me.  If someone taped me having consensual sex with a woman, fuck I'd be the first to tag myself.  If it was a fat chick I might punch my room mate a couple times, but nothing a six pack and a few shots wouldn't fix.  It's fucking life.  If I were a gay man, and I got caught having CONSENSUAL sex (yes, that actually happens in college, folks) with a man, the same would apply.  I'm proud of who I am, and whether you're gay straight or bi, having someone tape you having sex is NOT suicide worthy.  It just doesn't make ANY sense.

Here's the real deal.  This kid Ravi is a piece of shit for being a gay basher.  I have several gay friends.  Fuck. I work at gym, I used to work 70 hours a week between two gyms.  Do you really think I don't encounter gay people on a regular basis?  I have hour long conversations with them.  I work out with them.  Have lunch or drinks with them.  I've gone to gay bars before.  I FULLY support gay marriage.  Discriminating against a person for being gay is just tasteless, rude, ignorant, and in general- shitty behavior.  This being said, how the fuck is this an invasion of privacy?!  Tyler ASKED for the room until midnight.  So let me get this straight, taking footage of the INSIDE OF YOUR OWN DORM THAT YOU HAVE TO PAY ROOM AND BOARD ON............IS INVASION OF PRIVACY?!!?! You must be out of your m o t h e r f u c k i n g  mind with that bullshit.  I'm pretty sure if the kid Ravi didn't openly hate gays even a fucking public defender could get him out of that shit.  It's his own room.  He pays to live there.  He can tape whatever the fuck he wants, and if there just so happens to be two dudes banging in there, oh well.  It's not like they went to his own personal dorm, grappled in through the ceiling and planted a hidden camera in his rubber fist or his sex and the city box set, they fucking had a web camera pointed at them.  Not exactly covert spec op stuff here, people.  The legality of the case is definitely being skewed because of the kid's open hatred of gays.

Gay people deserve the same rights we all have.  But of course now this annoying cunt Ellen has to speak up about how bullying is a crisis. No bitch, it's fucking life.  I wasn't a ladies man, or a looker, or rich, or an honor student in high school.  I got my ass kicked a few times, I was made fun of for not having eyebrows, not having a girlfriend until I was like a junior, having red hair, the sports teams I like, whatever.  I would have my friends over and my mom would walk around in a nightie, that was fucking embarrassing.  Or how about in sixth grade where I walked across the lunch room with colored pencils in my ass(through the jeans!) favorite wrestler was gold dust, so people called me gaydust for about 3 years.  I have strawberry blonde hair, so I got called red or ginger for awhile.  I've seen the inside of a locker, but by the time I graduated I was very popular and well-liked.  I never once contemplated or threatened to kill myself.  It is the most selfish, ignorant, self-absorbed, absurd, drastic action anyone can commit.  It does nothing but destroy the lives of your friends and family, and you don't have to see their faces or deal with the consequences that come afterward.  If the kid would of not been such a bitch about it, he could of spoke to Ravi like a man, he could of resolved it like gentlemen.  If not, than he could of moved out of the dorm.  Or he could of went to the dean.  Or his RA.  Or spoken to one of the 5,000 support groups at RU, but no- he decided to jump off a fucking bridge, and for that- he gets no sympathy from me.  To be discriminated for who you are is a shame and uncalled for, but to take a life that offered so much potential is no different than killing someone else.  It's still taking an innocent life that had unlimited potential to be great.  If people want to hate you for who you are, let them be them.  Racism, sexism, all of this is NEVER going to disappear. There's nothing anyone can do about it, but to take your own life over it, is as they say, letting the enemy win.  It's counter-productive, hurtful, and people need to see the other side of stories before they immediately jump to the defense of the bullied.

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